sub theory

I see two incantations of submissive on the net.
As a generalisation I put them into these two groups

The FLM, WLM, sub male
The dom male and sub female.

In the traditional dom male sub female model which certainly dominates the porno industry the man dominates the woman.  In many stories there is a degree of coercion and in many there is a desire by the woman to submit to the man but for which the dominant needed to exert some power to push her into the submissive state.  It seems to me though that in this scenario or model a key part of it is that the dominant provides a secure environment for the sub.

However when I read here about FLR we have a lot of male submissiveness but not a lot of female leading.  Not a lot of females providing a secure environment for the submissive men.  I see here a lot of guys including me wanting to submit to their female. 

I ask myself is this just a middle aged crisis.  Is it a reaction to the women loosing interest in us.

Is it that we get to a certain time in our lives where we say to heck with supressing feelings that we have had for a long time.

Interesting video - Blurred Lines Parody

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8Y58fr4brPs

so much work

There is this sort of titillating image of the man doing all the housework and the woman relaxing on the couch holding a glass of wine and reading.  It is titillating for about a minute and a half.  So even though through my submission I am now much more motivated to do house work and domestic chores and do do more.  My wife still does a huge amount and I get exhausted.  I know that in many families the women do almost all the domestic chores.  Frankly I do not know how they do it.

I do not understand how any single parent could survive.

At present both of us seem to work work work.  Don't get me wrong I am not trying to weasel out of it.  It is just that doing some opens my eyes as to just how much work it takes to run a house.

a theme here

Last night we were in bed together and she was paying me some attention and made comments about giving me time and so on.  It was nice.  She was pinching my nipples and that hurt and puts me in a very sub mood.  I was concerned however that she was doing all the work and I am the one who like to be sub.

I suggested she could rub against me.  She initially said 'no' but then said 'ok'.  I lay on my tummy and she got on my back and ground against me.  Its so nice.  So physically close.  Skin to skin.  She is on her period and neither of us are all that excited about sex and blood and this is a way for her to orgasm when on her period.  She came.  We both felt good.

A pinch and a

On the first day of each month we in our family go up to each other and engage in a play fight.  One person usually the younger one who is by nature more likely to know the date as opposed to us oldies who kind of wish time would stand still or at the very least try to deny our aging by forgetting the date.  I digress.

Small child will pinch you on the arm and then punch you on the arm and say "A pinch and a punch for the first of the month" and the other will respons " a poke and a kick for being so quick" as said small child tries to avoid a finger in the ribs and a boot up the bum.  Giggling all the way.

Anyway recently my wife has been squeezing my nipples hard and this morning was no exception as she squeezed it had and said "A pinch and ...."

oooh la la.

:)