Wednesday, October 27, 2010

Kinky Baggage

One of the difficulties we face is our past.

I have, I believe, been kinky since the day I was born. Here are a couple of examples.

Firstly as a kid, I used to be fascinated by kids who wet the bed. When I would go to friends places, I would sit on the bed and run my hand under the sheets to see who had a plastic mattress protector. You would be amazed at how many kids had plastic mattress protectors and even ones who wore nappies and plastic pants (1970's here) right up into high school.

I also have a fascination with corporal punishment. My earliest memory is of standing in a kitchen at someones place when someones mother picked up the wooden spoon and hit her daughter of I think probably about 8 or 9 years of age really hard across the back of her legs up high. She was wearing her school uniform sport skirt that was very short the way they were in the 1970's. The girl collapsed on the floor crying and holding the hands round the back of her legs. The mother just went on talking and I stood there and just watched. Fascinated. Many years later, I had the opportunity / privlidge to cane a girl friend.

My wife on the other hand has never as far as I can tell been anything other than straight down the line. With the exception of occasionally getting turned on watching girls kiss in a movie and once kissing another woman. And that only recently and when they were both a bit drunk.

We both grew up in the christian church. This has ingrained in her a sort of sexual concervatism.

Even though the main stream churches that we attended do not actively teach the husband is the head of the house, there is sort of implied expectation of that to a sort of moderate degree. So the idea of me being submissive to her is not something she is comfortable with.

In the early years of our mariage, I pushed her to wear schoot dresses and skirts and she complied. In fact amongst our friends, she was kind of expected to dress that way. Even our church friends knew that I liked her to dress this was and so even though I think they were caught in bit of a moral bind with modesty on the one hand versus pleasing your husband or complying with his requirements on the other. I also spanked her a few times but she really did not like this and even though she supports spanking the kids, I doubt if she would spank or in any way inflict pain on me. Pitty.

7 comments:

  1. I would love to be spanked. Ms. Rika writes in her book, if you want to have your husband act like a child, become his mother. This is refering to spanking and she instead recommends slapping across the face with an open hand. It is more something an adult would do to another adult.

    anyway...

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    1. I would love to be spanked. My fantasy is for the wife to stuff her panties my mouth when I speak out of turn, and to either slap my face, or put me over her knee and spank me hard with a paddle until it leaves welts.

      If I could choose, I'd beg her to punish without any thought for me, without any sympathy or concern, until she felt I had paid.

      I don't get to choose, but I love her for being so dominant, and I'd so very much love to submit to her, to be punished and humiliated at her whim.

      I'd be grateful for a hard slap across the face, any time.

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    2. Hi Anonymous,
      I can completely understand where you are coming from. I would love my wife to spank, whip, hit, whatever where I did not get to choose how long or how hard.

      Obviously the reality is that in our society, I would have to agree in advance to her being in control - something I would willingly do.

      I hope that someday you do get to enjoy her stuffing her panties in your mouth and slapping you. Good luck.

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  2. Hi subservient-husband,
    Thanks for your comment.
    Can't say I would like a slap in the face whereas being whipped on my backide is something I would like.
    A key difference to a parent child relationship would be that I would know I had done wrong and want to be punished. I would not be fighting the authority figure if that makes sense.
    submanhub

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  3. We spanked our children when they willfully misbehaved and so I thought the idea of us spanking one another as husband and wife would be a little creepy. It's not. When we "play" my wife likes to administer some spanking (mainly on my balls but on my posterior too). It's kind of "her kink". I think she likes it more then I but because she likes it, it turns me on even more.

    My "kink" is more being restrained. I have been somewhat fascinated with being tied up since I can remember. I always "felt funny" when Batman/Bond/whoever was tied up and taunted by his nemesis.

    I enjoy hearing your thoughts. I hope I'm not posting annoying or excessive comments.

    Cheers!

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  4. Hi lovetosubmit,

    I put a comment on your blog now that I see it is available for anonomous posts.

    Please comment as much as you like here. You are certainly not posting anoying comments.

    The restrained thing is growing on me.

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  5. Another person here who has fantasies (and slight experience) dressing up, wetting, and getting spanked. Well, lots dressing up. Go with it!

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