She said He said

In response to my previous message she said

It's Sunday night.
Waiting for you to come home.
Hoping you've had a great day.
We'll see what happens ... : )

I did not get sex. We did not have sex. She did say she was tired and so we kissed and cuddled and she went to sleep

I wrote back

Hi Dear,

Right now there are two motivations, two drivers for me wanting sex.

1. The physical desire. The physical pressure within me. I am a guy and that is the way it is.

2. The desire I have that you are happy. In particular that you get to have great enjoyment.

The first thing is that as I think about it, what I want first is a way in my own mind to swap the order of these areound. I want to be in the mindset that puts your happyness first.

The next thing is that I suspect that I need to find a way to make your whole life happy. In as much as I influnece it anyway.

We didn't have sex last night and I appreciate that you were not turned on. I was not here until late and I guess that meant that there was not time. time to just be together. I appreciate that you did not just give me relief. Thankyou for being honest with your feelings. Thank you for having the strength to say no.

So I wait.

No! I need to do more. I need to proactivly change my behaviour. I need to do things so she is happy. Actually more than happy. So she is inspired.

I am asking for your help with ideas to turn her on. I am willing to do anything. So do not limit yourselves. What would she just love. What too should I do. It could be simple at home stuff right through to the special treats and presents.

Over to you guys on what I can do.