At work I am in a leadership position.
At home I would like to be in a servant position.
At one level this is hard. A bit of a mind flip.
Having to be assertive in one situation and definatly not assertive in another.
It is made harder right now because she is not kinky dominant. Controlling in her own vanilla way.
Maybe I should look for a position at work where I do not have to organise others. But then in historical times we have heard of slaves and servants who had control of other slaves and servants so ther is prescident for servants and slaves to lead others and so the idea of leading is not in itsself in theory at least a problem. Still would be nice not to have the worry of a change of head space between home and work.
I don't have a problem with the switching. In fact, part of the reason I like to be dominated at home is a break from making decisions and leading. It gets tiring. Ironically, I could coach my wife to better ways to lead/dominate me, but that would be "topping from the bottom". Which is not allowed. Oh well. She is getting there. Having fun along the way!
ReplyDeleteI would love to be dominated at home and maybe that would mean that switching would be easier. Its just not really her. if that makes sense.
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