Looking for a direction

It would seem that she is not interested in leading.

So that leaves me with some options to contemplate
a) I could try and lead. Done that. 10 years of competing with her.
b) I can just go with the flow. Not argue, be passive, do if asked. - Sounds pathetic.
c) I can actively seek out ways to do things for her and support her - Which is what I will do.

I guess though I have to get used to the idea of her leading without apearing to lead or something.