My self imposed rules
I am writing these so I have a check list to remind myself.
I will not switch on the TV.
I will not organise anything unless she asks me to organise it.
I will not get stressed out if she changes things at the last minute.
I will not ask her for sex.
I will not pressure her for sex by for example thrusting up against her in bed.
I will not masturbate (because it is selfish and I want to get out of this selfish head space)
I will do as many jobs as I can around the house. (Washing, ironing, washing up)
I will do at least one job each day as a minium. (This may sound like not much but at present, I do pretty much nothing so I figure start with something achievable)
I will only say positive things to my wife and kids.
If I am angry, I will go for a walk or a run to calm down.
I will not pressure my wife with regard to clothes.
I will offer, but only once per day, to give her massages.
I will leave the toilet seat down and use the brush on the toilet if necessary.
I will turn down her side of the bed.
I will put a glass of water on the bed side table each night. (her side and mine)