Tuesday, November 7, 2017

Gave up

Had a discussion with my wife.

There seems to be three groups of sexually abstinent men.
1. More sexually denied by disinterested wives. Non kinky.  Just marriages fallen apart but they are sill living together in a sexual desert.
2. Catholic or Natural Family Planning (NFP) couples.  Wives very supportive and in a vanilla way dominate the man as far as sex is concerned to ensure he stays abstinent.
3. Kinky couples sub man dom wife. 

In types 2 & 3 the men are basically happy and the women are overtly caring for the men.

My wife was "bla" when it came to this activity.  She just did not care.  She is just not into me.

So I figured what is the point.

Told her that and we had sex.  Pretty boring sex.  I think she sees it as her marital duty.  She certainly does not get turned on and does not seem to want to get turned on.


  1. hmmmm, I was wondering: when you guys had sex recently, did she have an orgasm?

  2. No. She does not like me and has zero libido.

  3. And it's now June, 2018. I wonder if you are still in the marriage. Have you decided to find a sexual relationship outside the marriage? I hope you have not decided to just "go without" the rest of your life, that is not healthy nor desirable.

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  5. 21 years of Christian marriage and I'd say you hit the nail on the head there. Outside the home I am the dominant one. I'm 50 athletic and in an authoritative role. Inside the home she calls the shots (which I dont mind). I do what she says and if we have sex she calls the shots. (I dont mind although I wish she would call them more.) I understand we have two teenage girls and we've got to be careful. Behind locked doors and late at night.
    I get verbally cursed at if I'm displeasing to her.
    Pain from her means, raking her fingernails across my body. Ball sucking. An occasional slap across my face or behind if its bare.
    I would love for her to tie me up and wear me out with a brush, just dont know how to bring it out of her. Sex is once or twice a month. When she wants. If I'm lucky I get to eat her pushy then let her ride me till she cums
    Many times she has made me do her orally or fingering until she had an orgasim and then she goes to bed saying she is too tired.
    If I beg for sex or have a hard on she will dribble my dick on my chest or play with me until I'm about to explode then go to sleep.
    I want our submissive dominant role to grow but dont know where to take it from here.