Friday, June 20, 2014


The marriage has been going through a rough patch.  Well I have anyway.  Feeling quite down and abandoned from time to time and those times becoming more frequent and more down when they do happen.

Yesterday was of that time.  Felt down.  Had a brief conversation with the wife about how I felt in particular how she basically seems to get her energy elsewhere and has basically abandoned me. Went to bed early.  Surprise when she came into the bed room and told me to roll onto my tummy.  She pulled off my boxers and proceeded to push the butt plug that has lain un used in the bed side table for probably more than 6 months maybe even a year.  Then she pulled on a pair of my plastic pants on to me.  Then she had me sit up and wrapped cling wrap round my chest.  Then she told me to lie on my front and she retrieved the cane that has again sat unused behind the dresser and caned me a few times.  Sometimes on my bottom across the plastic and sometimes on the top of the back of my legs.  Some hardish and some just many quick whacks.  Then she stopped and ran the tip of the cane up between my legs.

I went from feeling depressed to energised.  From flaccid to aroused hard on.  From sleepy to awake.


I asked if I would be allowed to cum and she said "maybe".  Wow.  Teasing.

Then she has me sit up and she put some of those black springy paper clips Bulldog clips? on my nipples that were under a layer of plastic.  Cripes that hurt.  She tried that a couple of times then said that that would make it hard for me to lie of my front so she took them off and had me lie on my front again.

Then she caned me some more.  Harder than before.  Then she said I was to rub myself until I came.  I started to hump the bed in my plastic pants.  She caned me and then stopped and got a couple of clothes pegs and reached around and put them on my nippled and then caned me some more and then with one hand giving small smacks with the cane and her other hand running her hand up between my legs and feeling my legs, pushing the butt plug through the plastic pants and squeezing my penis (yum) and balls (agh ow).  Then a few more really hard hits with the cane and I came.

She came round her side of the bed and got in and turned off the light.  We held hands and I also ran my hands across her shoulder and leg on my side in a kind of non invasive way and asked if I could do something for her.  She just said no this was my night.  That in a way was the only negative to what was a very stimulating experience.

Today (next morning) I am feeling very much better than the last few days where I was quite down.  I am feeling alert and awake and positive and at work ready to go.


  1. It's hard when you feel that you aren't getting enough attention, but you don't want to be whiny about it. Just keep the communications channels open, as you apparently just did. Good luck to you!


  2. HAs your wife got a lover something seems to have energized her. Hope you were cuckolded to excite her.

  3. As many find out too late, most wives do not want submissive husbands. I have seen every one of our friends marriages end when they started with D/s and/or cuckold lifestyles. Their wives tended to find the more dominant men that most women seek.

    You may think that I am putting you down but quite the opposite. I am sexually submissive and have tried to get my wife to dominate me too. Our life took an unexpected turn. I wanted my wife to dominate me because that was the only way I could get sexually aroused. My wife likes gentle and romantic sex. That was a problem. My wife tried to dominate me but she did not want to hurt me and found it hard to go from submissive wife to dominating Mistress.

    She found a creative solution. One night when her recently divorced and bitter about men, friends was spending the weekend with us, she ask her to dominate me to get out her anger against men. Her g/f asked her if she was serious and my wife said yes.

    We went into our bedroom and was whipped like never before. My new Mistress would actually moan each time she struck me and made me feel how wet she go from whipping me. When I could not take anymore and my back and butt had many welts on them, she put some clips on my nipples and rode me. She slapped my face and choked me saying all sorts of things about how men basically stink. Then she punched me in the face three times and I came hard. Sounds like a porn story, I know, but it did happen.

    That began a 38 year relationship with my Mistress and a bisexual one between her and my wife. Sometimes my wife wanted to watch me get punished if she was upset with me for a reason. Other times she left the room after her orgasm because we were going to do things beyond her limits. She freaked out if I started to bleed from a whipping or punch to the mouth.

    We kept it among the three of us for most of our 45 year marriage and it worked well. No problems at all. The couples we used to wife swap with all are divorced and remarried multiple times. Just try to find a long married cuckold couple. They do not exist. Sex is a major part of any relationship so when you allow your wife to have sex with no consequences, outside of the relationship, she will eventually form an emotional bond with one or more of her lovers and not view you as she once did. Our best friends broke up because the wife had sex with a man who was better in bed and could provide her with a much better lifestyle. She viewed her husband as a paycheck since their intimacy had dropped to zero and as she said, she needed a man that made her feel safe and protected that would get jealous, and not a roommate that wanted to hear or watch her with other men.

  4. Hi Anonymous,
    You are one lucky man. I agree with your observation. I think my wife wants control at one level, missionary sex with me on top and us orgasming together at another level and no sex at all on another level.