Tuesday, August 19, 2014

Another FLM WLM blogger has a couple of posts on masturbation

Another FLM WLM blogger has a couple of posts on masturbation


I wrote a couple of responses on the "Im-Hers" blog and of course mused on the topic.  I had a look back on my blog and found that back in 2010 I had written a post on masturbation:-

Any internet discussion about masturbation will of course the age old question along the lines of whether men and boys should masturbate / should they be allowed to masturbate / should action be taken to prevent masturbation.

I wrote some of my teenage-hood masturbation on the Im-hers blog and reproduced it below.  The jist of that was that even with the raging hormones of teenagehood, the lack of privacy in the boarding house where I spent my school terms combined with the social stigma within my social circle combined with my desire to not slip down the social ladder meant that I would not masturbate during term time.  A period of 10-15 weeks.  So it is possible.

Now of course it is the thing of internet porn where the mother or father put their son in chastity and Im-hers points to a story of a mother who puts a device on her wayward son. You can read it via the link on his blog. Personally I think its fiction but there have been times in the past where parents have done the things that would normally be the domain of internet folklore.  The 2004 movie about Kinsey he mentions as a teen being made to wear leather underwear to prevent masturbation. I had a school friend in the boarding house who when he went home was made to wear plastic pants over his underwear.  I had a fascination for plastic now I know it as a fetish although I did not know the word at that time.  His parents were paranoid about image and apparently when he was younger he had wet himself in public and the parents interpreted this as bringing shame on the family so whenever he was with his parents in public he had to wear the plastic undies just in case.  Another example was I was helping on a church retreat one time and at a table 4 old ladies were talking and the topic was being given enemas or having to take castor oil or some other substance to induce bowel movements.  One lady said every Saturday morning and another responded with we had to do it Sunday night.  The memorable thing was that it was a regular thing not just in response to some illness.  These days any of these things would be considered farcical.

So will masturbation be prevented in teen boys and how?
My suspicion is that if it were, these days it will be done by medication - by drugs.  Simply because at present it is trendy to have your kids medicated.  I have overheard mums trying to out do each other in explaining the efforts they had to go to to get the doctor to put their kid on some behaviour modifying drug or other.

Will it?
That is harder to answer.  The world has become more public.  Parents have become disempowered and tend to do nothing.  The moral high ground no longer exists.  Maybe there will be a return to parental control but I suspect a while away.

There you go.  My treatise on masturbation for the day!

===My Teen Story===

With respect to my teen years. I went to boarding school so of course no privacy. I was also in the middle of the social ladder. Not one of the "in crowd" but also not one of the pariahs either. To be caught masturbating meant you were known as a "wanker" and a sure fire way to slip to the bottom of the social ladder. Wankers did not get invited to secret drinking parties or skinny dipping in the school pool in the middle of the night. Wankers would wake up to wet beds because someone would pour a jug of water over the sleeping teen. You get the idea. There was a lot of pressure not to masturbate and so during term time I would often go more than 10 weeks without masturbating. Naturally I would have raging hard ons during the day in class and wet dreams at night every week or so. That I managed by wearing underpants and a singlet so that the pyjamas did not get wet with cum.

During school holidays I would go home and without the self imposed fear of being discovered I would succumb and masturbate. A lot!. It used to make me feel weak and in a way I used to look forward to going back to school. To the structure of the boarding house.

So I think it would be possible for teen boys to not masturbate but it would require a change of societal attitude from the current Its OK basically encouraging boys to masturbate to a societal attitude recognising the lust and weakness associated with masturbation and that would have to be coupled with vigilance where I suspect everyone would be watching everyone else.

The point being it is possible for teen boys to abstain for decent periods of time.

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