Friday, January 20, 2012

She came on top

Well last night was a treat.
It was hot and she was hot.
She faced away from me and took off her bra but kept her dress on.  As she pulled it out from one sleeve, she dangled it with her arm held out horizontal as a tease.
She had no undies on (unknown fact at this time) and turned on the electric pedistal fan in our bed room and stood in front of it and lifted the front of her dress and cooled her neather regions.  Still facing away from me.
Then while standing on front of the fan she slowly took the dress off over her head and I say she was now totally nude.

She came and lay on the bed.
We cuddled.
Even if it went no further, I was now feeling that she had made an effort and that is something I really appreciate.  She stroked my very hard penis.  I stroked her bottom and her shoulders which is the only touch I know that even might lead to her getting turned on.  Nothing.

Suggesed I put my penis inside her.
Discussion on how she did not want me to cum.  Very fun.
I asured her I had sufficient self control and it would be a good challenge.
So she rolled over and got the lube out of the bedside table and gave it to me along with an old nappy we use to clean up the mess.  I stripped off my PJs and put some lube on.
She had lit a candle and lay there legs apart.
I very gently got on top of her and pushed lowly in.  Because of the lube it slipped in easily.

I said would you like to roll over and she said yes.  That was good
With her on top and moving, things were looking good.
I had to be careful not to cum but I moved too.
She asked me to put my fingers in and toch her clit.  Good sign.
And it stimulated her and she came quite quickly then.

She relaxed her hot sweaty naked body on top of mine.  Ahhh lovely physical contact.
After only a short time, she started to tighten herself on my still hard penis.
Obviously one of the advantages of me not cuming is that I stay hard and that means I engoy her doing this tightening thing and then of course she got turned on again and it was not long before she came again.

This time she lay on me for a moment and then anounced "your too hot and sweaty" and pulled herself off and lay on her back beside me.

I wiped up.  Not much mess because I had not cum.
Feeling great.

Gave her the cloth to wipe between her legs.

Pulled up the sheet and went to sleep.

In the morning

We had another short discussion and I asked about how she felt cuming and me not comming and the jist of that seemed to be not so much a feeling of inadequacy on her part but a feeling that I (husband) am missing out on something that I enjoy (which I do) but she kowing that I am enjoying abstaining.

I wonder if she realises that I also really enjoy her making the decision whether I get to cum or not.
I am also enjoying the physical challenge of abstaining.
I am also enjoying not having the feeling of weakness that follows "release" this is when we have sex and she does it because she thinks I need release.
I am also enjoying feeling positive, awake, alert, in a good mood that seems to acompany not cuming.

I did the washing up and some bible study and then wrote this entry
What a great morning

Interesting read


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  2. Wow, that was smokin' hot: a striptease, a candle lit cuddle session, woman-on-top sex, and TWO female orgasms! That's quite a day. you are a lucky man.

  3. Hi guys,
    thanks for the responses.
    I only read about 2 pages of the devotional sex web site. I will get back onto it soon. It looks fantastic. Scary thought though but fun too.

  4. Even if Devotional Sex is not for you or your wife, I hope you can pick up some good ideas. And you will need to ask questions because much of my site is not-yet-written.

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    Next you need to work out the best way of getting there. For example, hoping that she will 'make you do' something is unlikely to work.

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    1 - don't talk about heavy kink (e.g. being spanked)
    2 - never expect your wife to read anything

    Unfortunately most of the advice on the internet by women is written by Mistresses or Bossy women into FLR. These women think that all women want to be like them. I'm pretty sure that if I read more of your blog it will be clear that your wife, like most women, does not want to be a Mistress or a Bossy FLR leader.

    If you disagree with what I've said please let me know. I'm still learning too and I learn from discussions.

    Good luck!